Bursting Myths On Sex Life After Marriage

Everybody's talking about it, but what's the truth, eh? I'll give you the lowdown, from one Goan to another.

First of all, no couple does five rounds of sex in a day. That's just a tall tale! If someone's boasting about it, they're probably on some kind of stimulant or stretching the truth like mozzarella cheese on a hot hot pizza.

Most couples, we find, are happy with one or two rounds in a day. And that's okay! Life is busy, and sometimes you'll come back from work tired, and the other will be already asleep. It's like trying to catch a fish in the river - sometimes you get one, sometimes you don't!

Couples don't have sex every day. For some, it's 2, 3, or 4 times a week. For others, especially when work takes them apart, it's just once a week. And that's okay!

Sex isn't everything in a marriage. There will be weeks where you don't have sex, but that doesn't mean you don't love each other anymore.

If one partner isn't in the mood, sex isn't going to happen. And that's okay! It's always better when both people are enthusiastic participants. You don't need several rounds to know your sex was great. A good sex can last between 10-20 minutes. If it's strong, it can last 30-40 minutes. And if it's very strong, an hour might go! But not too much on the clock - what's most important is how you connect with your spouse.

Marriage doesn't always have to be a husband begging for sex. Sometimes it's the wife who gives the signal. When my wife wants it, I'll know she does it in her own special way.

Sex doesn't always happen at night. Sometimes it's in the morning, afternoon, or evening. Whenever the mood suits you or you both have some time to spare, that's when it is, and it doesn't always happen in the bedroom, either. It might be in the living room, bathroom, or even the kitchen, when no one's at home. Marriage is full of surprises!

Marriage is about exploring and enjoying each other in new and different ways. And then there's the quickie- a hurried meeting, maybe only one or two minutes in length. But it has its own appeal.

Sex is not just for making babies. Mostly, it's for pleasure and connection. Couples use positions that suit them both. Missionary, doggy style, or anything else - it doesn't matter. What matters is that both partners are feeling comfortable.

During sex, a spouse shouldn't be coerced or forced to do anything they're not comfortable with. Sex is an activity that involves both couples, and both should be happy and involved.

Sometimes, one spouse may not realize they raised the bar too high for their mate. No biggie! You can just try again at the next one. Sex in marriage should be a pleasurable experience. You have to help each other make it as lively, warm, and frequent as you can.

It's your life, and you make the rules, Youngsters, I know most of you have huge fantasies about sex. So now that you've come to know a few things about actual sex in marriage, be ready. 

Marriage is beautiful, and sex is a part of it.