The Dance of Love: Navigating Relationships with Grace

Let me tell you something about the dance between a man and a woman in this life. You see

relationships are like the tides of our beautiful Goan beaches, sometimes calm, sometimes stormy, but always connected to the moon above, which is love.

Aik, bhau, something I learnt over the years. A woman, she blossoms like a sweet jasmine when she feels truly loved. Her motto is to be gentle – not because she’s weak, but because she feels protected, cherished. And you, when you feel that respect – that’s when love will gush from your heart like a tap opened full. You don’t have to force her to be gentle. Just love her, ani poi, how she responds.

And, dear women, don’t have a power-struggle with your man. Let him feel he’s the boss. Indulge him a bit and you’ll see love flow from him like a fountain. A good woman is one who is in her husband’s wallet - not by counting chillar, but by being intelligent and caring.

You can’t imagine how much power a wife who is gentle and understanding has over her

husband. She has more power even than all the fiery women put together. But if you’re always rebelling, always fighting, it’ll be hard to get through to him, and the peace will vanish like the mist over the Mandovi in the morning.

A guy, when he sees his wife, well he might first see her beauty, but what keeps him coming back is her essence, her soul and if you can remember that you will know that's the truth.

A woman, she’s like the fields of Goa. Whatever you sow in them, they return it to you, manifold - good or bad. So, a wise man, he sows his wife with love, peace and care; and in return reaps joy twofold.

But remember everything this is possible only if on both sides the heart is good. If it is bad for one, no matter how much you love or submit; they will take it, and they will keep hurting you.

So, the most crucial task for you is to be a perfect man and find a perfect woman. If you can do this, and by God’s grace your marriage will be as firm as the ancient church bells in Panjim, ringing solid and clear.