20 Valuable Marriage Lessons from a Wise Goan Villager

Let me share with you a bit of wisdom, the kind that comes from years of watching life unfold in my village, Goa.

1. A wedding, my friend, is just a day of celebration, but marriage—that's a lifetime of

   commitment and understanding.

   
   

2. If a man is tight-fisted when he's single, don't think marriage will loosen his purse strings. A miserly man remains miserly.

   
   

3. Silence, my dear, is golden. No one can twist your words when you say nothing at all.

   
   

4. If you're yearning for something truly special, you must be willing to go where others

   fear to tread.

   
   

5. When God wants to bless you, He brings the right person into your life. But beware, for

   the devil too sends people, those who can lead you astray.

   
   

6. It's better to be alone and single than to be bound to the wrong person. A wrong match

   can be a lifelong sorrow.

   
   

7. Steer clear of a quarrelsome woman, my dear. A house filled with peace is far better than one filled with strife.

   
   

8. And remember, my dear, there are three types of men you should avoid:

   a. The one who loses his temper at the drop of a hat.

   b. The one whose eyes wander from woman to woman.

   c. The one who finds solace at the bottom of a bottle.

   
   

9. Just because a man makes you laugh doesn’t mean he’ll make you happy in marriage.

   There’s more to it than humor.

   
   

10. Marry someone who shares your faith, my dear. It’ll make the journey easier when you

    walk in the same spiritual direction.

    
    

11. In marriage, these three simple phrases are like a balm for the soul:

    a. I love you.

    b. I’m sorry.

    c. Thank you.

    
    

12. Don’t fret about being single, my dear. It won’t last forever. Keep yourself busy, be

    happy, and life will unfold as it should.

    
    

13. Living together before marriage, my dear, is like cooking a dish before the pot is ready. It rarely turns out well.

    
    

14. Be cautious, my dear, with habits like self-indulgence. They can cast long shadows over your future marriage.

    
    

15. Marriage without friendship is like a Goan sky without the sun—dull and lifeless.

    
    

16. If you rush into marriage, you might end up with someone who buries your dreams

    instead of nurturing them.

    
    

17. Why you marry is just as important as who you marry, my dear. Think long and hard

    about both.

    
    

18. Much of your happiness in life, my dear, will come from the partner you choose. So

    choose wisely.

    
    

19. Both a man and a woman need wisdom, not just love, when choosing a life partner.

    
    

20. And lastly, don't place too much value on outward beauty, my dear. Every woman has her own charm; sometimes, she just needs a little polish.

    
    

May you find joy and peace in your marriage, my dear. God bless you and guide you always.