6 Stages of Marriage: A Journey of Growth and Love

Let me walk you through the different stages of marriage, as I've seen them with 45 years of experience. Marriage, you see, is like the tides - sometimes calm, sometimes stormy, but always moving. This is how it is.

1. The Amazement Stage: This is the "WOW" phase. Everything is fresh and exciting.

You’re discovering so many new things about each other—sleeping in the same bed,

cooking together, doing chores side by side. You wear your wedding ring proudly, and

everything feels like a dream. There’s a lot of fun, joy, and excitement as you start this

journey together.

2. The Irritation Stage: Now, this is when the little things you didn’t notice before start to

get on your nerves. Maybe he snores too much, or she takes her time in the kitchen. He

might be glued to the football match while you’re trying to talk, and she might not always

be as tidy as you’d like. It’s all part of getting to know the real person you married.

3. The Anger Stage: Here’s where those small irritations can boil over. You might start

wondering if you married the right person, but my dear, it’s just a phase. We all go

through it. You might get angry, or you might keep it inside, but it’s important to

remember that you’re both still learning.

4. The Resolution Stage: This is when you start to face reality. You both realize that anger

and silence don’t fix anything. Instead, you begin to find ways to deal with your

differences. You start compromising, adjusting, and working things out together.

5. The Acceptance Stage: Eventually, you realize that some things won’t change. That’s

when you stop getting upset and start accepting each other’s quirks. You learn to love

them for who they are, with all their strengths and weaknesses.

6. The Restful Stage: Finally, you reach a place of peace. You accept your spouse

completely, with all their flaws and virtues, and love them unconditionally. This is where

true love grows—deep, steady, and strong. You reconnect on every level and enjoy the

comfort of a lasting marriage.

Remember, my dear, no marriage is perfect. We all go through these stages. How you handle them will decide if you come out stronger or weaker. Keep faith at the center of your home, and don’t be discouraged when tough times come. They, too, shall pass.